1 ADOPTEE ADOPTIVE MAMA AND 1 ADOPTIVE MAMA COME TOGETHER.
I recently had the special opportunity to ask my sweet friend Sarah 10 questions, that I had already answered myself, about the gift of adoption. She did not know my response to these questions. We answered them separately and right here is where you will see our answers side by side.
Sarah and I have many things in common. The most important thing is that we both have a 15 month old who was placed in our arms by the gift of adoption. The main difference? Sarah was blessed by the gift of adoption long before I was. Adoption gave her a family.
The dictionary's definition of the word Adoption:
Two Adoptive Mama's definition of the act of Adoption:
Adoption is love creating forever family
"she placed her children for adoption because she loved them so very much"
.we ultimately agree that we 100% recommend adoption to other families.
1) What role has the gift of adoption played in your life?
S: Adoption has been everything to me, without adoption I wouldn’t have a family. Without adoption I wouldn’t have any idea what love is and what the power of love can truly do. Also without adoption I wouldn’t be a mom.
C: The gift of adoption has filled my heart with hope, peace, courage and love. Without adoption I likely would not be a mother and I have witnessed that more children would be without forever families.
2) What does the phrase, "Love Makes A Family" mean to you?
S: I love this phrase because it proves that love can move mountains.
C: Unconditionally loving one another creates family.
3) Why did you choose to grow your family with adoption?
S.I was adopted and we always wanted to grow our family through adoption.
C.Ever since I was a young girl I always knew that I would likely need help getting pregnant. There are many routes one can go when faced with this reality. Instead of pursuing infertility treatment we pursued the gift of adoption.
4) If adoption was not present in your life, what do you think would be different about your life today?
S: As an adoptee I would be living a completely different life and not nearly be the woman I am today.
And I wouldn’t be a mother if adoption wasn’t present in my life.
C: I would likely not be blessed by motherhood nor experiencing parenthood with my spouse.
5) How old was your child when they were placed in your arms and how old are they now?
S: 3 days old, she’s now 15 months old.
C: Our son was 6 hours old when he was placed in our arms. He is now 15 months old.
6) What are some of the feelings that you have for your child's birth family?
S: We love them very dearly and can’t thank them enough for giving us the biggest blessing ever
C: We feel a strong connection with our sons birth family simply because we do have a connection. We all are so in love with my son. We love them so much.
7) Will your child know that they are adopted? Is so, why?
S:OF COURSE! That isn’t something we will ever hide from our child.
C: Our children will always know that they are adopted because it is a part of their story. It is not our job to take that away from them.
8) How do you plan to tell your child that they are adopted?
S: We talk about her story often to her, there will be no sit down and telling our daughter she’s adopted. She will always know.
C: Even though our first born is still so young we already talk about his story to him. We also incorporate adoption children's books into story time and sing adoption songs to him that I wrote. He will just always know by us creatively incorporating the story into our daily life.
9) How long, from start to finish, was your adoption wait?
S: Technically we didn’t have a “waiting period” From the time we found out about my daughter on July 7th to the day she was born November 1st. You could call that our waiting period
C: We started the adoption process in 2015 and had to put the process on hold. We started the process back up again during the Spring of 2016 and our son was placed in our arms during the month of October the same year. For our second adoption we have been actively searching for our child since October 2017 and are still actively waiting. The wait is entirely worth it.
10) Would you recommend adoption to other families?
S: 100% Absolutely!
C: We would 100% recommend adoption to families, yes!
Do YOU agree with us too? Comment below.
We hope this brings peace and love to many others considering this beautiful gift.
With love from our families to yours,
Sarah and Chelsea